Have you ever thought of the idea of dating your kids? My husband and I realized early on that taking our kids out, one-on-one, was important. Years ago, I was leading a Bible Study and I had made it “homework” to take your kids out on a date, one-on-one. The next meeting I ask how it went? One of the moms was blown away by it. She had shared that one of her girls (around age 7 or 8) tended to be whining and discontent at home. But after taking her daughter out and spending just a couple hours with her; her daughter was amazing…for the rest of the week.
Our kids need our time. No matter if you have 1 child or 10, they like spending special time with you and it changes them. Make special one on one time with each child either every week or every other week. Maybe you can switch every other week with your husband. Dad one-on-one time is very important too. Girls who have good relationships with their fathers tend to be less promiscuous and boys need that one-on-one time (or dates as we call them) just as much. Here are some ideas below that one of my children, Isaiah, helped me write.
1.) Go out for ice cream
2.) Go for a walk
3.) Date night in your bed. Send 15-30 minutes talking in your bed with one child while the others are in their beds.
4.) Gas Station run
Questions to ask:
1.) Favorite color?
2.) Favorite food?
3.) Favorite thing to do? What things are you interested in?
4.) How are they doing with their other siblings? Are they being sweet. This is a good time to add instruction and wisdom.
5.) Have a proverb in mind to talk about with your child. Like Proverbs 2: 1-5
6.) Ask if they have any problems, worry’s, frustrations…
7.) If you had one wish, what would it be?
8.) Are you struggling with anything?
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6