The first step to growing more Christ-like is to take a good look in the mirror and ask, “What do I need to work on”? It doesn’t matter if you’re a new Christian or have been one for 30 years, we can usually find something we need to work on.
Do I complain? Do I like to gossip? Do I talk bad about a friend, spouse, parent, or in-law?
There is typically something that stands out, maybe multiple things. God doesn’t want us to have bitter, sassy spirits. He wants us to be gentle, kind, and encouraging. Why is it that women are so often the opposite of that. We tend to lean more towards gossip, holding grudges, and being sassy towards our spouses.
God is looking at your inner person. You can be someone that fools the world into thinking you are super woman with a super godly spirit but God sees the truth. 60 or 70 years from now (maybe less/ maybe more) when you stand before your King at the judgment, you are only going to care about what He thought of your life and character here on earth.
“For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.”
– 2 Corinthians 5:10
Make every effort to dig into scripture and adhere to godly ways. If you see something is amiss (like complaining a lot), ask the Lord to make you more thankful and work on thanking the Lord for every little wonderful thing.
Let your litmus test be comparing your character with the godly women of the bible and the proverb after proverb God gives as guidance. Don’t’ compare yourself to the world. Don’t look at all your church activities and think you are godly. God is first and foremost interested in your inner person and character. If we do not have godly character, we are actually bring shame to the word of God. That might sound huge and scary but if we make small strides in our character, over time we will become the most gentle, self-controlled, beautiful women; a true testament to all those around us.
“…People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” –1 Samuel 16:7b
“A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day” –Proverbs 27:15
“The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” –Titus 2:3-5